The Direct Seller's Podcast
The Direct Seller's Podcast
Finding Purpose, Letting Go of Guilt & Embracing Your Next Chapter
This episode is a raw, honest behind-the-scenes look at what happens after you leave something successful to follow a deeper calling—and it doesn't go the way you thought it would. If you’re feeling stuck, lost, or questioning everything, this one’s for you.
Key Takeaways:
- The emotional rollercoaster of leaving the Tag Team and navigating life after a successful partnership.
- Why finding alignment in your business might take years—and why that’s okay.
- The danger of running from your true calling and how to recognize it.
- How fear, doubt, and self-sabotage sneak in (especially when you're on the verge of something great).
- The quiet moment when everything clicked and Rachel finally gave herself permission to go all in.
- What Rachel would tell herself two years ago—and what you might need to hear today.
- Encouragement for those who are ready to build something of their own but feel like they’re constantly starting over.
- A peek into the inspiration behind Rachel’s skit characters and why they’ve brought new life to her business.
Power Quote:
"Alignment doesn’t always feel like lightning. Sometimes, it’s just a quiet knowing that this is it."
Closing Reminder:
If you’ve ever felt like you’re failing because you keep changing directions—this is your sign that you’re not failing. You’re evolving. You’re finding your way. And it’s safe to try, pause, pivot, and try again.
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Welcome to the Direct Sellers Podcast, the podcast for direct sellers who are ready to get uncomfortable, build their business and grow a team while changing the face of the direct sales industry. I'm your host, rachel Perry. Join me as we get real and talk about all the things you need to kick some serious direct sales booty From overcoming limiting beliefs to sharing the exact strategies you need to attract the right people who become customers and beg to join your team. I've got you covered, girl. I'm going to be your new BFF when it comes to balancing life and kids while building your direct sales business with poise, peace of mind and, of course, a good set of fake eyelashes. Let's get started. Hey guys, welcome back to another episode of the Direct Sellers Podcast. I'm your host, rachel Perry, and today I'm just gonna get really real with you guys and I'm so excited. I love episodes like this, when I get to share a little bit of my story. So this episode is for you. If you're kind of in a fog, maybe you're questioning everything, maybe nothing feels right. That's what we're talking about today, because I've been there. So, as you know, I left the tag team back in 2019. And when we dissolved the tag team in 2019.
Speaker 1:And when we dissolved the tag team, I didn't realize how hard it would be for me personally, because I was the one that chose to leave. I felt that I was being called to something else and it was a really hard decision. But what I didn't anticipate was that I would lose my identity in the process, and so, after it's been four and a half years of searching, trying, launching, pivoting, questioning, something has finally clicked, and I just wanted to share what has changed and what I would tell myself two years ago. If I could go back in time, what would would tell myself two years ago? Like, if I could go back in time, what would I tell myself? You know, there've been so many moments over these past four and a half years where I've thought should I quit? Like is this working? Am I even good at this? Should I not have made the moves that I made? And I think, because the tag team happened so beautifully and so organically, I sort of expected that to happen with this business, with my personal business, and what people don't talk about is that it can take years until you feel truly aligned in your business.
Speaker 1:It wasn't like a big aha moment for me. It was a series of small, brave choices that I made, stacked on top of one another, and there were times when I felt like I was wading through a mud pit. I didn't know if I was doing the right thing, I just kept trying. And there were so many times when, like I would find success, I would launch a program and people would join and I was so excited. But I didn't feel like the depth of excitement Does that make sense? Like I wasn't like passionate about it. I would have it for a little while and then it would dissipate and I thought that was just because it was me and there was something wrong with me.
Speaker 1:And I was helping people and I love helping people, but I think I was running from what I was really meant to be doing and I had all these ideas but they they didn't light me up. And there was something that I was running from and that was I wanted to teach direct sellers, network marketers, how to build something of their own, something that they owned, something that they didn't have. That was their own. Honestly, that was their own and I kept running from it. You guys, I kept running from it and I think part of that was because I was scared. I think there was some fear there doubt, a lot of doubt, and I kept coming back to it. I kept coming back to it. I would create a program and then I wouldn't. I would go back to what I knew, which was teaching direct sellers how to build their direct sales business.
Speaker 1:But suddenly, not even suddenly, there was no one moment where I feel like this change happened, like there was. There's no one moment that I can be like and that was the clarity I needed. But I think my clarity came after this live event that I went to with the coaching group I'm a part of back in April and I was just. I showed up to this event willing to be really vulnerable and willing to recognize and see if there was something that I was not. I don't know what I was not doing or doing right. Like I, I really wanted to be open to change and that's hard. And I remember one of my coaches said you're not charging enough for your product and I was like right, and he was like you're not speaking to the right people.
Speaker 1:And all of a sudden I had this massive aha, like I've been hiding again so much of this four and a half years I've gotten really brave. I've done brave things, but I've also been fearful. I've also allowed myself to wow. This is such a big deal to me that I'm sharing this, because I don't think I've ever shared this so openly before. But I allowed myself to fall back on things that I knew because I was scared of the unknown. I was scared of failing All the things I teach you guys about and I didn't realize I was doing it. And I think so often this is the process, right, the process is falling back into old ways, trying new things, then getting scared, like this is all of the. I don't regret any of it. I love who I've been able to work with and I I love all the things that have come from all these moves that I've made.
Speaker 1:But I think after this live event, something clicked for me, and I don't know what it was. If you guys followed me back in the tag team days, we used to wear wigs and do funny skits all the time, right, like remember the minivan moments? I loved those so much and I think I tried to come up with some alter egos, like I. I tried to recreate Jasleen. I tried to tap it Like. There are so many videos that I've done where I I tried to do it and it just never felt right, it never felt aligned, and that made me sad a little bit, because I love to make people laugh, and I thought, well, maybe that's just that time of my life is over Like, maybe, maybe I'm not meant to do that and came back from the live event back in April and I don't know what it was, girl, I was like inspired and I've created these new characters and I'm doing something different and I'm making people laugh and I'm sharing Instagram and TikToks Instagram reels and TikToks, pretending to be different network marketers, and it's so much fun and I think it was just time.
Speaker 1:I think I had to grieve the loss of the tag team. I think I had to be willing, be brave enough to step into really what I felt called to do. I had to be willing to do that and it was soon as I did it, as soon as I did what I've been running from. It was like this alignment, like you know, when you find that puzzle piece and you put it in and like the last puzzle piece, and all of a sudden, everything feels right. That's exactly what happened and I think it was me being willing to do the thing that scared me the most. And you know, the truth about alignment is that it doesn't always feel like that. It doesn't always feel like lightning. Sometimes it's just a quiet knowing like this is it. And that happened to me just before the live event that I attended. I had created the backup plan. It just came to me one day in January. I was like I'm going to call it your backup plan and that's what I'm going to teach direct sellers to do build something in addition to their direct sales business. And I felt that I felt like this is it, this is it, this is it.
Speaker 1:And I think that came after lots of exhaustion, lots of questioning, lots of trying things that did work and didn't work but didn't feel right. I had to give myself that permission to start over as many times as I needed, and there was a lot of guilt. That happened there A lot of times where I was like, oh, rachel, you know like why do you keep starting? People are gonna get so confused with your messaging and all of that. But looking back, I'm like, oh no, I needed to do all of that. I needed to go through all of that. No, I needed to do all of that. I needed to go through all of that.
Speaker 1:I think alignment doesn't necessarily mean everything is easy all the time, but I do think that it makes hard things feel worth it. I think that is so powerful and I think when I came back and I don't think it was necessarily the live event that changed this I think that was just sort of the turning point after all of this searching, and I just feel so much more activated now and I hadn't felt that in years. Even some of the time during the tag team, like I didn't have this activation, I felt like I wasn't doing what I was meant to be doing. And I'm sharing this with you because I think a lot of you may feel this way. A lot of you may feel like you're not super aligned, you're not necessarily loving in love with what you do, and I just want to encourage you that you know all the things that you're doing, the steps that you're taking, the things that you're trying. They're all getting you closer to where you're meant to be.
Speaker 1:And I think so often we feel guilty because it's like for me it was like oh, I'm always trying something new, like I can't seem to stick to anything. But that wasn't true. I was just trying to figure out where I was meant to be and sometimes yes, sometimes I was running away. I was trying to avoid out of fear, but I was always moving forward and I want to encourage you with that, because that's part of it. And I had one of my students say to me the other day I just don't know if I'm meant to be doing this direct sales business anymore. It just feels so hard. And I will tell you like that was part of it for me too, way back when, when I was doing my direct sales business like there comes a point or there came a point where I was like this is just a little bit not what I want to do anymore. And if you're starting to feel that way, just know that that might be a sign, that might be a nudge to start building something of your own, to start creating a digital product. You can sell that. You can still do your direct sales business, but you're just starting to build something of your own.
Speaker 1:You know, I think if I were to go back and talk to myself, I think if I were to go back and talk to myself, I think what I would say after two years of this journey, I think I would say because, you know, I had great success in the beginning and I had, I mean, I've had great success across the four and a half years, but it hasn't felt right. It hasn't. It hasn't been flowing, though, like I wanted it to, like it did, necessarily, with the tag team. But I think what I would tell myself is I would say you're not behind, number one, you're just building something real. You're not behind. So I want, I want you to hear that too. You're not behind, you're just building something. Okay, don't force what doesn't feel right.
Speaker 1:I tried a lot of different things that didn't feel right, felt right in the beginning, and then it just didn't feel right. Going forward, okay, and it would be easy to look at that and be like, well, that's a failure, that's a failure, that's a failure. But I don't see any of them as failures. I just see them as things that just didn't work. It wasn't right. Right, but I had to figure that out before I got to where I am now, and everything you're learning is going to come back around in ways that you can't see yet. I would tell myself that, like everything you're learning, rachel, everything you're learning, listener is going to come back around in ways that you just can't see yet, and it's safe to pause. And it's safe to pause. And it's safe to pivot. And it's safe to trust your gut. It's safe to try different things. It's safe to say I don't think this is for me anymore. Or it's safe to say I want more from this.
Speaker 1:Right, I just really want to encourage you and I wish that I, if I, could go back and tell myself that I would, because there were so many times where I felt like a failure. There were so many times when I felt like maybe I wasn't cut out for this, maybe I wasn't meant to go solo, maybe I misread the pull I had felt All those things, but it was all part of it, it was all part of the journey. So my encouragement to you is that if things ever feel off, if they feel off right now, if they feel off in the future, it doesn't mean it's not working and it doesn't mean that you're doing something wrong. It just means that something is trying to shift. Stay in it or take a break. But, whatever you do, don't give up on the version of you that's trying to come out. But whatever you do, don't give up on the version of you that's trying to come out.
Speaker 1:I was talking to my expand ladies today. We were talking about the inner mean girl and how the inner mean girl gets really, really loud when you're on the verge of something, when you are about to expand, and so often we listen to that inner mean girl and we let her stop us. But my encouragement to you is to not let don't let her stop you. Don't let don't self-sabotage yourself because you are meant for more. But are you willing to open yourself up to that more because you deserve it? But you may feel that you don't and that is a lie. You know I'm reading, rereading the Big Leap and I've talked about this before. If you've been in any of my challenges, you know I've talked about it. But I'm rereading it and I read it four and a half years ago and I'm reading it now and it's so different because I'm in a different stage of my life. But he talks about the author, gay Hendricks talks about how we have this upper everyone has an upper limit problem and we get to that upper limit where and it's that point where we're like nope, I'm good, I don't deserve anymore.
Speaker 1:Like, have you ever had that feeling where you're like everything's going great in my life and then something bad happens? Or then you do something and then you're like, oh see, I knew it couldn't stay great forever. That's an upper limit problem. We do that to ourselves because we don't feel that we deserve to go beyond that ceiling that we've created for ourselves. But that's a lie. None of that is true, and so I just want to encourage you today to recognize and try to recognize. Like are you doing that? Are you self-sabotaging? Because guess what?
Speaker 1:There were many times in this, over this past four and a half years, where I questioned God. I was like maybe I'm just not good enough, maybe I'm not meant to do this. I'm not making as much money as I was with the tag team. Do I stick with this? Do I go find a job? Am I meant to be doing this? And every time, I felt like God was saying keep going, keep going, keep going. And I did. And there were things that didn't work and there were things that did work, and I would change my messaging and I would change my messaging and then I would change it up again, and change it up again and change it up again, and there were so many times where I felt like I wasn't, I was failing because I kept changing things. But the reality is is I was just on this journey to figure out and find this alignment, and it doesn't happen overnight. Sometimes, sometimes it does, but sometimes it doesn't.
Speaker 1:And I just want to encourage you that you are meant for alignment, you are meant to be happy, you are meant to love what you're doing. And if you don't love what you're doing, take a look at it. Are you being called to something else? And maybe that is just creating that space, that digital offer, something more. Maybe that's the door you need to be opening, or maybe it's something else. And that's the door you need to be opening, or maybe it's something else. And I just really want to encourage you today. You are where you're meant to be, but just don't be afraid to try new things, don't be afraid to pivot, don't be afraid, don't see yourself as a failure, because you're not. You're just expanding.
Speaker 1:Thanks for letting me share that today. I so appreciate it. I love you. I appreciate you listening, I love hearing from you. So, as always, reach out. Let me know that you listened how you liked this episode. I do adore you. I truly adore you, and I'm so grateful that you're a listener, so I'll see you back. Here's it for this episode of the Direct Sellers Podcast, but our fun doesn't have to end now. You'll catch me hanging out over on Instagram between episodes and I'd love for you to join me. So hop into my DMs. I promise you're not getting any hate girl messages and I promise I'm not going to be asking you to weirdly buy anything. Send me the message podcast so I can send you my free 90 day action planner, because who doesn't love a good template?